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Respond, Don't React
The Cockroach Theory for Self-development
Response Vs Reaction

September 12: Let us remember our late bishop Most Rev. S. Iruthayaraj on this day of his Episcopal Consecration. Let us thank the Lord for all his services to our diocese and let us pray for the repose of his soul.

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew
From somewhere and sat on a lady.
She started screaming out of fear.
With a panic stricken face and trembling voice,
She started jumping, with both her hands
Desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach,

Her reaction was contagious,
As everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away
But….it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady
In the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing,
The cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed
The behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it
With his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement,
The antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts
And started wondering, was the cockroach
Responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies
To handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach
That disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father
Or my boss or my wife that disturbs me,
But it’s my inability to handle the disturbances
Caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me,
But my inability to handle the disturbance caused
By the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problems, it’s my reaction
To the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lesson learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.

I should always respond.
The women reacted,
            Whereas
The waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive
            Whereas
Responses are always well thought of,
Just and right to save a situation from going
Out of hand, to avoid cracks in relationship,
To avoid taking decisions in anger,
Anxiety, stress or hurry.

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